There is a brighter side
Today, in our society losing a
parent is something that should be looked at as negative. My thoughts were the
same until I my father passed away. My father was always coming and going in my
life it was not he was a bad father, but the decisions that he has made were
not the best. When I was eleven, the time when I was beginning middle school
and growing up to be young adult, I found out that my father was in jail.
Before, this I have not seen him for a year, and then when I was told this news,
I wondered when I would see him again. After a while, my dad learned that he
had lung cancer, and the cancer has spread all over his body. However, he was
released for two months, so that he could get the proper treatment.
Unfortunately, after a month he lost his battle with cancer. When he died, I
was distraught and wondered how time can go forward, when my mind is still in
the past. I was depressed for a long time and not doing well at school. Then I
realized that my father would have wanted me to move forward in life and for me
to work hard. The loss of a parent can have a positive effect on the child
emotionally because in the long run the child can be more emotionally stable.
This can be the result of if the other parent can prepare the child for the
death, if the child is a young adult, and if society can help with a child cope
with the loss of the parent.
According to the article “Helping
Bereaved Children and Adolescents: Strategies and Implications for Counselors”
authored by James P. Morgan and Jesse E. Roberts talks about the grieving
process of young adults and how to support them. The article states that many
adults seem to think that young adults want to keep a distance through the
grieving process, because they may be concerned that they are invading their
space. However, young adults need the same support as everyone else. Also I
found this article to be very helpful because the article was not biased, but
the article gave stories of young adults who were going through the loss of a
loved one. However, after reading this article I found myself wanting to know
more on how young adults can look at the loss of a loved one a motivation do
well in school, career, etc.
In life you have a choice to look at the
positive side of things or the negative. Especially, when it comes to a death
of a parent, people tend to choose to look at the negative. This may be due to
the fact that we have a hard time of accepting death as natural life; instead
we mask it by telling ourselves that this person is just taking a “long road
trip” forever. In our society many of us do not know how support the younger
generation through the loss of a parent, because many of us never went through
an event like this in our lives. We need to support children and young adults
who are in the process of coping with their loss. For myself, I am not sure if
the loss of a parent affects the child greater if the child knew their parent
is dying, but it depends on the situation. As for the young adults and
children, they need to take the loss of a loved one as a motivation in life.
That is why my goal for this blog is to spread the word that there is a
brighter side of the situation, and the parents who have died would want their
children to move forward in life and to succeed. Like my father would want me
to do.
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